January 25, 2015
Before I can move forward, I face up to a few hard truths. Sometimes not gaining back the weight you have already lost is a win. Sometimes you have to address the underlying reasons for weight gain before you can lose weight.
Defining normalA new normal. We talk a lot about things getting back to normal, meaning that we want thing to go back to the way they were before___________. Everyone has to fill in their own blank because we aren't all rooted out of our normal bed by the same thing. But for argument's sake, I'll list of few of the things that create chaos in our lives.
- visiting family or friends
- a visit from your family or friends
- death of a friend or loved one
- catastrophic event (fire, hurricane, tornado, blizzard, tsunami, etc)
- car wreck
- broken limb
- being diagnosed with a health condition or disease
- public embarrassment
- failed diet
- losing weight
- birth of a baby
- living with a new roommate
- winning the lottery (don't we wish)
- becoming a grandparent, for the first or the twenty-first time
- having the best barbecued ribs that you have ever tasted
- graduation--from high school, college, or trade school
- starting a new job
- being fired from an old job
The point to all thisI am sure that there are other events that could be added to the list. But that's not the point. The point is, when you experience the event--i e go home for the holidays and face your family who drives you crazy--going home doesn't take you back to where you were when you left for the visit. No, whether you realize it at moment or not, going home or "back to normal" means that you have create a new normal. It may look and feel somewhat like the old normal, but it is not nor will it ever be. Which is not such a bad thing, if you really think about it. Redefining our normal is what helps us (humans) to to evolve. Each tiny change adds a new fact to our normal self and gives us a chance to change the trajectory of our future.
I guess that is a long-winded way to say, if you don't like where you are, then get out and experience life and make yourself a new normal. It seems that it would be beneficial to apply yourself to the positive ones that you (in theory) can control, pray that the ones that not in your control don't swamp your boat, and you don't get more than your fair share of the negatives.
My new normal
|Nothing to do but grin and bear it!|
No matter how much I would like for my life to get back to normal, it is never going to happen.